HOW TO HAVE SEX FOR MORE THAN A FEW MINUTES?
How long can you last with direct stimulation? Don't believe what your male friends are telling you. "40 minutes, give or take" - bullshit! Chances are that 90% of your mates are lying. Studies suggest that the average time from the beginning of vaginal penetration to ejaculation for men is about 5 to 7 minutes, but this can vary widely depending on age, physical health and emotional health.
Premature ejaculation (PE) is a common sexual dysfunction characterized by ejaculation that occurs sooner than desired, either before or shortly after penetration, leading to distress for one or both partners. It is a common concern among men, but the good news is that several effective techniques can help improve ejaculatory control and delay ejaculation. That's right! On this blog post I will teach you some of the most recommended methods to avoid coming too fast, including the start-stop method, squeeze technique, and pelvic floor exercises. We'll also explore a few additional techniques that can make a significant difference in your sexual health and satisfaction.
Even if you are already able to hold on for a good amount of time, these techniques to delay ejaculation could still come in handy to prolong your own pleasure, and your partner's too. Let's check them out now.
The Start-Stop Method
How It Works:
The start-stop method is probably the oldest trick in the book. It's a technique that involves stimulating the penis until you feel close to ejaculation, then stopping all stimulation until the sensation subsides. This process is repeated several times before allowing yourself to reach climax.
- Stimulation: Begin by stimulating your penis through masturbation or with a partner until you feel the urge to ejaculate.
- Pause: Stop all stimulation when you sense that ejaculation is imminent, i.e. stop stroking before you come! Take deep breaths and focus on calming down. It may be helpful to think about something completely non-sexual. Take your pick... A good friend of mine told me he mentally starts naming the players on his football team. Another mate once suggested the dangerous "think about your grandma" trick, but I suggest you find something that works (or doesn't work) for you.
- Resume: Once the urge has diminished, resume stimulation. Repeat this process three to four times before finally allowing yourself to ejaculate.
There are some products on the market, such as masturbation sleeves, that promise to increase your endurance. The principle used is exactly the one described here.
Benefits:
This method helps you gain better control over your ejaculatory reflex, increasing your ability to delay ejaculation over time. It is completely natural, fun and safe.
The Squeeze Technique
How It Works:
The squeeze technique involves applying pressure to the penis to reduce the urge to ejaculate. This method is typically done with the help of a partner but can also be practiced alone.
Steps to Follow:
- Stimulation: Begin stimulating your penis with your hand, using a mastrubation toy or with the help of a partner (surely the best alternative), until you are close to ejaculation.
- Squeeze: Firmly squeeze the base of your penis or the area just below the head of your penis (the glans) for about 10-20 seconds. This pressure should temporarily reduce the urge to ejaculate. When I say firmly, I don't mean you should strangle the poor bastard downstairs.
- Pause and Repeat: Pause the stimulation, then repeat the process as needed. After a few cycles, you can proceed to ejaculate.
Benefits:
The squeeze technique is also a natural and healthy technique that can help desensitize the penis and give you more control over your ejaculatory response, extending the duration of intercourse (yay!). Some men report this is more efficient than the old-start-and-stop method, but you have to try it for yourself to see what works better. Once you've found the right pressure and timing, teach your partner to squeeze for you, showing with your hands above theirs the amount of pressure needed.
Pelvic Floor Exercises (Kegel Exercises)
How They Work:
If you thought pelvic floor exercises are for women, well, you couldn't be more wrong! Pelvic floor exercises, also known as Kegel exercises, are excellent for men as they strengthen the muscles that control ejaculation. By gaining strength and control over these muscles, you can improve your ability to delay ejaculation. And it is so simple to do them, that you will regret not having started doing them before! But don't worry, it's never late to start improving your sexual health.
Steps to Follow:
- Identify the Muscles: Locate your pelvic floor muscles by trying to stop the flow of urine mid-stream. The muscles you engage are the ones you need to strengthen.
- Perform the Exercises:Contract these muscles for about 5 seconds, then relax for 5 seconds. Aim for 10-15 repetitions, three times a day.
- Increase Intensity: As you gain strength, hold the contractions longer and increase the number of repetitions. It's kinda like going to the gym, but for your penis.
Benefits:
Stronger pelvic floor muscles provide better control over ejaculation, leading to improved sexual performance and satisfaction. This is the best technique to use on a daily basis, as it doesn't require pulling your little friend out of his cage. You can exercise very discreetly anywhere: at work during a boring meeting, at the dinner table, or sitting on the couch binge watching your favourite show.
Additional Techniques to Last Longer in bed
1. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques:
Practicing mindfulness and relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, and progressive muscle relaxation can help reduce anxiety and increase your control during sexual activity. Do not underestimate the power of meditation. Try it. If not to improve your endurance, it will surely improve your general wellbeing.
2. Changing Positions:
Experimenting with different sexual positions can help delay ejaculation. Positions that reduce direct stimulation to the penis, such as side-by-side or woman-on-top (aka cowgirl), may be particularly beneficial. Be careful with reverse cowgirl, that one can make you explode very quickly, but it's certainly one of the most enjoyable ones! You don't need to go all Kama Sutra here (but extra points if you do), all you need is to try a few different positions and see which ones you have more endurance. Every man (and his dick) is different, so figure out what works for you.
3. Desensitizing Creams and Sprays:
Over-the-counter desensitizing creams and sprays containing numbing agents like lidocaine can reduce sensitivity and help delay ejaculation. Apply these products to the penis 10-15 minutes before sexual activity to reduce sensation and prolong intercourse. This shouldn't be your first resort, though. I recommend only trying this after exhausting the other methods listed on this article. Don't go spraying something on your dick before trying everything else. And make sure you don't have allergies to the substances on those creams and sprays. To be on the safe side, check with your doctor.
4. Medications:
Certain medications, such as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) and other prescription drugs, can be prescribed by a doctor to help delay ejaculation. Always consult with a trusted healthcare professional before starting any medication. Most men will be able to improve their sexual endurance without the need of medication.
Conclusion
Improving ejaculatory control and delaying ejaculation is possible with consistent practice and the right techniques. The start-stop method, squeeze technique, and pelvic floor exercises are effective strategies to help you gain better control over your sexual response. By incorporating these methods into your routine and exploring additional techniques like desensitizing creams, mindfulness, and changing positions, you can enhance your sexual health and satisfaction. Remember, patience and persistence are key, and seeking professional advice can further support your journey to improved sexual well-being.